How We Get Here

This blog is going to be about this.

Here's my premise: I think we go through life as Victims, Survivors, or Warriors.

I have not known anyone who has not been victimized. It's just to what extent. I think victimization is done in an Olympic size pool that has a shallow end and a deep end. Its resemblance to a normal pool ends there. This pool is a cesspool and it is filled with waste. The dipping or dunking is done at an early age and it's done to us not by us. We get dipped in somewhere in that pool. Some of us to the ankles and some up to the tops of our head. Then end result is it leaves a film and a stench (I call a lie) left in us clear to the heart. The outward film (signs of victimization) might get washed off (scarred over) but until the inside gets rescued the best we can do is be is a survivor.

Why this at an early age? When we are young we believe in and depend on others to reflect goodness. We trust them. We are impressionable because we are in the process of growing up. I believe we think with our heart (feelings) at this time not with our minds (cognition). When we get dunked two things can happen: In an event, or for many, series of events,something gets hurt (the mental, physical, relational, etc.) But more importantly, a lie(s) is imputed on our identity as to "who" or "what" we are about. The lie is the interpretation of the event.

The lie concludes self statements such as, "I am worthless." I can conclude, "There is something wrong with me." I can conclude, "I cannot be trusted." I can conclude, "I am unlovable." And the like.

The survivor is out of the pool and no longer slimed but now is stuck with the lie(s).